Many dating apps today are eager to obtain as much data about you as possible in an effort to understand you better and match you with more compatible people (or so they claim). Providing a glimpse into your lifestyle can provide intrigue and encourage conversation but it can also invite stalkers and also result in a self-sabotaging effort.

Additional Photos
Many dating apps out there limit the number of photos you are able to display and so linking your Instagram can expand the number of photos displayed. With that said, there is a saying on dating apps that goes something like this “You are only as attractive as your worst photo.” Typically 4-6 photos are enough photos for someone to effectively convey appearance, style, personality.

Even though people are unable to view your Instagram account regardless of its privacy settings, it does provide people real-time access to your routine and whereabouts. This is great for thieves, stalkers and scammers who want to know when you are not at home, what your daily commute routines are and are trying to piece together answers to online accounts. Always limit oversharing real-time location, details of your life and .your routine. Check out this post on online dating safety tips to keep in mind while meeting strangers

Many people are uncomfortable posting photos with friends without their permission on dating profiles. Others don’t know which photos to keep and which to delete. Linking your Instagram account solves these two problems. Instagram (when done correctly) can provide a glimpse into how you spend your time, what you find inspiring and interesting and provide a creative outlet. It can also hinder your chances for success. If you take a bunch of selfies, post nothing but inspirational quotes or are seen parting 24/7, it can give pause to potential suitors.

Conservation Starters
Additionally some apps don’t have captions for photos so adding photos that do from your Instagram account provides context. Additional photos also provide additional talking points and additional conversation starting points. Many folks are bad at talking about themselves so photos can assist with helping folks with bridging that gap. (check out this guide on additional tips on conversation starters to help transition from matches to dates).

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Weigh what you can gain from revealing aspects of your life vs. what you are willing to divulge to the public.


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