Dating In Austin In Your 20s vs 30s vs 40s; Dating As A Woman, Man In Austin? Austin Dating Sites, Apps, Austin Dating Scene, Culture

In my line of work, it’s my job to be familiar with local dating scenes across the world. As a dating coach, location matters, and it affects one’s ability to date effectively. Knowing the demographics, competition, culture and vibe of a city can make dating significantly easier if you know how to approach it, or make dating miserable if you choose to ignore these items.

The dating scene in Austin will vary depending on your age, gender, orientation, ethnicity, what you seek, lifestyle choices and personality. A lot of my clients who come to me are unaware of the dating scene in Austin, and it can be quite a shell-shock to those who just show up without any research or planning.

Austin is an amazing city. There are tons of things to do in the city, including lots of awesome live music. floating on the river, killer bbq, queso and breakfast tacos, as well as artistic minds and outgoing personalities.

Being in Austin for your first time will feel like a kid in a candy store if you are man. For women, that might vary. Austin is home to one of the largest universities in the country (UT Austin, #10) which means thousands of young women populate the city every year. #1 is State College is less than 2 hours away and many coeds come to Austin regularly.


What Is Dating In Austin Like For A Guy? Girl? Is Austin Good For Singles? 

What does being a college town mean in the dating world? That will vary on who you ask. For guys, it’s like being a kid in a candy store. Evergreen inventory of young women flocking to the city. Temptation is everywhere, and settling down for many men can feel like an afterthought. The saying goes, “If you can’t get laid here, you can’t get laid anywhere.”

For women, it can be tough. There is little motivation for guys to settle down. Someone younger is always nearby (even if the guy has zero chances with them). The Peter Pan syndrome is alive and well in Austin with little encouragement for guys to grow up, dress up, mature and want to start a family. 

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Dating As a Person of Color In Austin, Interracial Dating In Austin; Is Dating In Austin Easy?

Austin is a big city and there is a lot of interest and movement in the area thanks to work from home, no state sales tax and lifestyle choices and options. With that said, the demographics for Austin is a bit unfavorable. The amount of black, Asian and Indian populations in Austin leave a bit do be desired, especially for men as they have a harder time dating out of their race/ethnicity.

Furthermore, the personality and lifestyle choices favor those that like drinking, tubing, live music, and more extroverted types. If you are a nerdy tech guy, you might have a hard time meeting people as even introverted women are drawn to extroverted men.

You really have to make an effort to find people you can connect with, whether it’s through apps, building networks or putting yourself out there. Most guys I work with in Austin have a hard time dating for these reasons. Even though they are fine dating white women, that is not as much the case the other way around.

Dating as a person of color or being a minority can be tough, with the exception to the rule being if you are Mexican/Latino, as that has a sizeable representation. The other thing to consider is that many people want to stay in Austin or Texas – do you? If not, that can reduce your chances for success even more.

The best thing you can do is use apps sparingly and rely on meeting people offline, in person. Assess your lifestyle choices, hobbies and interests. You don’t have to be another clone, cliche Austin resident but it helps to immerse yourself in the local culture and see what it has to offer.

Like in any other city, demographics, height, ethnicity, location all matter, but you can overcome these things by working on yourself.

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Dating in Austin In Your 20s, 30s, 40s; Dating As A Woman, Man In Austin

As for dating and marriage, it’s not uncommon to get hitched young in Austin. There are lots of people settling down early to get married more so that in bigger cities like LA, SF or NYC. As a woman, the longer you wait to settle down, the tougher it can be, more so than in cities mentioned above.

The temptation and number of women is rather difficult to comprehend in a city like Austin. The weather and lifestyle lend to more skin showing than cities like SF where many transplants come from. Dating in Austin is easy, relationships are hard. Trying to align intentions, family planning, timelines, geographical preferences and long-term plans can often break up couples.

Most people I know in Austin get out asap or stay forever. Austin can get old quickly. The city remains young thanks to the school and lifestyles so many people start to feel out of place in their 30s and 40s. Enjoy Austin while you can because it may not be as fun or interesting the older you get. Austin is a young man’s/woman’s town.

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Alternatives To Dating Apps

How to meet men, women without dating apps. Alternatives to online dating. Where to meet women, men in real life. How to meet women, men offline, in-person.

Online Dating In Austin, Dating Apps In Austin, Best Dating Sites In Austin

Most people don’t need dating apps in Austin to meet people. There are a ton of single people everywhere in town. However, dating apps can help to sort out specific types of personalities, lifestyle and interests. Apps like Hinge, Bumble are pretty popular in Austin. Unfortunately, CMB is not as popular in cities with stronger Asian populations.

You really have to set yourself apart on dating apps to have a fighting chance given people can meet others offline anywhere. Being authentic, direct, transparent and intentional is your key to doing well on apps (assuming you have good photos, lifestyle choices, reasonable preferences and favorable demographics).

Niche apps like the League or more mature apps like or Okcupid could be worth exploring given the profiles on Hinge and Bumble can be rather cliche, basic and rather boring. Profiles get repetitive quickly in Austin. 

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How To Meet Singles In Austin, Where To Meet Women, Guys In Austin

The best way to meet singles in Austin is through activities, going offline and being unique. If you are shy or timid, you will have a tough time meeting anyone. In my coaching sessions, I will craft lifestyle choices and hobbies to meet people you are interested in and want to attract.

I will also help you with communication skills, body language, wardrobe, vocal intonation and how to approach women or how to get guys to notice you. One should note that finding people who are not into football, beer, bbq or lazy floating on the river is difficult.

Not everyone has grown out of that phase of life, so if you are having trouble meeting more mature types, this coaching is definitely for you.

About Eddie Hernandez

Eddie is a dating coach for men & women in San Francisco (clients in NYC, LA, Chicago, & beyond ), as seen in the NYT & Bumble). He helps w/ profiles, photos, wardrobe, messaging, date ideas, red flags, lifestyle choices, hobbies, grooming/hygiene, communication, social skills & offline efforts.