Dating Coach San Francisco For Men & Women

San Francisco Dating Coach For Men & Women; Dating Coach Services Bay Area, Silicon Valley

Dating Coach, San Francisco Bay Area & Beyond; Offline & Online

Featured in the NYT, Women’s Health Magazine, WSJ, AskMen, SFGATE, ABC7News, Bumble and more. Read Testimonials Here.  

Whether you are newly single, new to the city or have struggled to meet people organically out and about or through dating apps, I help individuals who are looking to meet more, quality folks organically with an exhaustive makeover of their online dating profiles and their offline approaches (think of me as a digital version of Hitch without the slapping).

  • We will analyze what strategy works best for you – apps (which ones), offline (where to meet people organically) and/or matchmaking services. We will analyze your hobbies, lifestyle choices, appearance, communication skills, personality, grooming, style, date planning and more.
  • I accept less than 30% of applicants these days, so I can focus on those who are actually ready to put in the work and treat this as a partnership, rather than outsourcing their dating efforts.
  • Most of my clients come from major cities like LA, NYC, Chicago, Washington DC, Seattle, Philadelphia, Austin, Boston, London, Vancouver, Sydney, Melbourne, Stockholm and beyond.
  • If you are looking for someone to blow sunshine up your ass, please stop reading. I work with short guys, POC, people over 40, those who feel lost, successful folks who want privacy and those who are socially awkward.

I am not going to lie to you, I am not here to make you feel good about yourself either. My only focus is to help you become a better dater, learn about yourself and others, expand your interests, question your thought process, uncover biases and ideally have some fun along the way. I blend analytical rigor with a qualitative approach to dating to give clients the greatest opportunity for success.

Overview of dating services for men, women here. Dating profile consulting services here.


New Blog - Modern Dating By Eddie

This blog is for those that are new to dating, have little experience dating, are confused by ‘the rules’, keep making the same mistakes or are frustrated with dating in today’s culture.

Dating Coach For Men, Women: Why Am I Different? 

-No other dating coach has the visual eye for photos that are unique, approachable, authentic, candid and vulnerable yet shows people confident in their own skin (no photoshop or filters here!)

-No other dating coach is as data driven as me but yet values and prioritizes serendipity, things that can’t be quantified like simple luck, focus, effort, energy levels, eye contact and good timing.

-No other dating coach is as intimately familiar with each top dating app and is able to dissect them to figure out which ones are best for you (if any).

-No other dating coach knows how to ask the tough questions to identify blind spots, work on opportunities to shine.

-No other dating coach will analyze posture, style, hobbies, interests, communication, lifestyle choices, hygiene, grooming habits, religion, politics, writing skills, facial expressions, first impressions, vocal intonation and personality like I do.

-I don’t use paid ads, nor rely on my looks and charm like other coaches who are great salespeople.

While other coaches and online dating experts rely on studies, theoretical scenarios, rigid structures/formulas, their charm or appearance, I rely on real-world experiences, blending qualitative and quantitative data, unknown information, human choice, personalities, things that can’t be captured in data, demographics and of course you and your own unique experience and situation.

I am agnostic when it comes to offline methods, dating apps or sometimes matchmakers. I will break down the pros and cons of each for you. Having lived in San Francisco, Los Angeles and New York and having spent significant time traveling to places like Seattle, Portland, Chicago, Boston, London and beyond.

As a person of color and someone who was a bit nerdy and introverted in my early 20s, I learned to be more outgoing, embraced apps and optimized my opportunities offline by learning how to improve my appearance, communication skills, confidence and social skills. Read more about me here.

Related reading: Online vs. Offline Dating  | Dating Apps vs. Matchmakers


San Francisco Dating Coach For Men, Dating Coach For Women, Dating Coach Bay Area

I offer help in these areas for men and women:

-Taking online dating photos (custom shoots based around your lifestyle, who you want to attract)

-In depth dating profile critiques (app choice, strategy, timing, first impressions, first messages, date ideas)

-Online dating strategy (messaging, date planning, paid features, timing & screening profiles/reading people)

Virtual consulting services: (virtual or in person: understanding dating patterns: not getting second dates, conversation skills, body language, reading people, screening profiles, attracting more quality people, avoiding time-wasters)

-In-person live sessions: Going to bar, café or social settings and teaching you how to approach people organically, how to read people, what to order, where to sit, how to start conversations and how to be comfortable in your own skin. These sessions feel like you are hanging out with a friend, but with a mock date feel. Great for guys who want to learn to talk to women and great for women who want to invite guys to approach and talk to them in public more often.

Date observations: This is where I observe actual dates in person (both you and your date) from a distance. From awkward welcomes, body language, behavior when you leave the table to get a drink/use the washroom, to ending dates and goodbyes. I am discreet as they come.

More on dating services here.


Dating Consulting; My approach, philosophy:

I believe in hard work, self-awareness, patience and building a foundation that will allow for sustainable success. If you are looking for a cheerleader to make you feel good, hacks, PUA material or someone to make empty promises, please stop reading and look elsewhere. Testimonials below.

  • I am not one of those dating coaches who are still single themselves (many of them are and have been for a while)
  • I am not here to make empty promises nor take you on as a client if I don’t think I can help you attract higher quality people.
  • My focus is not only helping clients but improving the dating pool; as such, 70% of inquiries are turned down
  • You won’t find photoshopped glamour photos of me on this site or in the press (I believe in honesty, substance, and authenticity)
  • You will get to work with me directly and not an assistant nor an apprentice. 


Online Dating Review, Testimonial, Dating Profile Consultant, Online Dating Coach, Dating Coach For Men, Women

Send me a note through the contact page on my website. Please specify what you have done in your life, where you think you struggle, and how I think I can help, and I will get back to you if there is a mutual fit.

I work with folks of good moral character, and I use an extensive background check process to make sure are able to improve the dating pool beyond yourself. I typically accept less than half of the people who contact me as I focus on those who are honest and sincere with their intentions AND willing to put in the work and view this as a partnership rather than an outsourcing effort.

All my offerings are customized based on where I think I can help you the most. I don’t offer cookie-cutter modules or rigid step-by-step programs, nor do I want to waste my time or yours with services that don’t make sense to you.

Consultation is done over video (Google Hangouts) or in person. To expedite the process, I will ask for details to help me get a sense of who you are: photos (appearance, wardrobe), screenshots (dating profiles), efforts (app choices, strategy), and interests (hobbies, classes, travel).

For online dating profile help, check out my dating profile critique here.

Be sure to check out my blog with tips to improve your dating life (offline and online). 

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Dating Coach For Women, Guys, In-Person Dating Coaching, Dating Coach Bay Area FAQ’S…

Dating App Coach: What Should You Look Out For, What To Know When Hiring An Online Dating Coach?

Dating app coaches are those that focus on dating apps. However, as one should know, dating apps and dating app profiles are a reflection of your life (offline, in-person). If you make poor decisions in your life, have bad lifestyle choices, live in remote areas, don’t dress well, have bad hygiene or are swiping outside your league, no dating app app coach can help you.

You need a dating coach that can assess all aspects of dating including messaging, grooming, hobbies/interests, geography, facial expressions, body/appearance, tattoos/piercings, etiquette, wardrobe/styling and more.

Dating Coaches vs Therapists, Relationship Coaches vs Therapists? Who Should I Hire? Is A Dating Coach Worth Hiring?

Many people seek out dating coaches prematurely because they are lonely and wish to find someone to avoid being single. This is not a good reason to date or to hire a dating coach. In cases where there is trauma or issues beyond dating i.e. self-doubt, lack of confidence, depression or anxiety, a therapist may be needed first before considering a dating coach.

You have to learn to date yourself and be happy on your own before you can date others. You have to be complete rather than try to find someone to make you whole. Coaches have real-world experience whereas therapists tend to speak in terms of frameworks, studies, clinical terms etc.

When hiring a dating coach, you should disclose other professionals you have/currently worked with, what issues you are battling (beyond dating as they can affect ability to have success on apps or offline).

Related read: Dating coaches vs therapists; Is A Dating Coach Worth Hiring?

Dating Apps vs Matchmakers - Which Is Right For You? Online Dating vs Professional Matchmakers

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Dating Coach Rates - How Much Are Dating Coaches? Dating Coach Costs? How Much Do Dating Coaches Cost?

Many dating coaches only offer courses or very expensive packages that range from $5,000-$10,000 or more. These are rigid courses that don’t factor things like ethnicity, height, location, preferences, wardrobe, education, hobbies, interests. I offer no obligation sessions. I don’t want to work with people who don’t see value in what I provide.

Dating Coach For Engineers, Introverts

As someone who works with data all day and regularly with engineers in my past profession, I get the mindset that quantitative and analytical minds have. I will balance quantitative and qualitative aspects of dating to optimize your dating efforts.

Do You Only Work With Straight Men?

No, I work with women and gay men as well. My focus is on those that are seeking relationships and looking for something serious. I am unable to be helpful nor effective if you are looking for something casual or just a fling.

Dating Coach vs Dating Consultant - Which Do I Need? What Is The Difference?

A dating consultant is more tactical and evaluates options for you, from speed-dating to matchmaking services to dating apps, to singles mixers to everyday organic methods of meeting people. They will help you optimize being more strategic and efficient when it comes to first appearance, vocal intonation, where to meet others, which apps to use, questions to ask first dates, how to screen matchmakers and what to look out for. 

A dating coach typically focuses on more emotional and dating patterns to unlock blind spots and change your way of thinking when it comes to dating. This focuses more on things like ghosting, reading people, ID’ing red flags, how to cut off time wasters and how to attract more of what you want. They can focus on more interpersonal skills and how to temper expectations, not overly invest yourself too quickly/easily in others and how to make sure you are ready to date.

About Eddie Hernandez

Eddie is a dating coach for men & women in San Francisco (clients in NYC, LA, Chicago, & beyond ), as seen in the NYT & Bumble). He helps w/ profiles, photos, wardrobe, messaging, date ideas, red flags, lifestyle choices, hobbies, grooming/hygiene, communication, social skills & offline efforts.