Dating Coach San Francisco For Men & Women

San Francisco Dating Coach For Men & Women; Dating Coach Services Bay Area, Silicon Valley

Dating Coach, San Francisco Bay Area & Beyond; Offline & Online

Featured in the NYT, Women’s Health Magazine, WSJ, AskMen, SFGATE, ABC7News, Bumble and more. Read Testimonials Here.  

Whether you are newly single, new to the city or have struggled to meet people organically out and about or through dating apps, I help individuals who are looking to meet more, quality folks organically with an exhaustive makeover of their online dating profiles and their offline approaches (think of me as a digital version of Hitch without the slapping).

• We will analyze what strategy works best for you – apps (which ones), offline (where to meet people organically) and/or matchmaking services. We will analyze your hobbies, lifestyle choices, appearance, communication skills, personality, grooming, style, date planning and more.
• I accept less than 30% of applicants these days, so I can focus on those who are actually ready to put in the work and treat this as a partnership, rather than outsourcing their dating efforts.
• Most of my clients come from major cities like LA, NYC, Chicago, Washington DC, Seattle, Philadelphia, Austin, Boston, London, Vancouver, Sydney, Melbourne, Stockholm and beyond.
• If you are looking for someone to blow sunshine up your ass, please stop reading. I work with short guys, POC, people over 40, those who feel lost, successful folks who want privacy and those who are socially awkward.

I am not going to lie to you, I am not here to make you feel good about yourself either. My only focus is to help you become a better dater, learn about yourself and others, expand your interests, question your thought process, uncover biases and ideally have some fun along the way. I blend analytical rigor with a qualitative approach to dating to give clients the greatest opportunity for success.

Overview of dating services for men, women here. Dating profile consulting services here.

Dating Coach For Men, Women: Why Am I Different? 

-No other dating coach has the visual eye for photos that are unique, approachable, authentic, candid and vulnerable yet shows people confident in their own skin (no photoshop or filters here!)

-No other dating coach is as data driven as me but yet values and prioritizes serendipity, things that can’t be quantified like simple luck, focus, effort, energy levels, eye contact and good timing.

-No other dating coach is as intimately familiar with each top dating app and is able to dissect them to figure out which ones are best for you (if any).

-No other dating coach knows how to ask the tough questions to identify blind spots, work on opportunities to shine.

-No other dating coach will analyze posture, style, hobbies, interests, communication, lifestyle choices, hygiene, grooming habits, religion, politics, writing skills, facial expressions, first impressions, vocal intonation and personality like I do.

-I don’t use paid ads, nor rely on my looks and charm like other coaches who are great salespeople.

While other coaches and online dating experts rely on studies, theoretical scenarios, rigid structures/formulas, their charm or appearance, I rely on real-world experiences, blending qualitative and quantitative data, unknown information, human choice, personalities, things that can’t be captured in data, demographics and of course you and your own unique experience and situation.

I am agnostic when it comes to offline methods, dating apps or sometimes matchmakers. I will break down the pros and cons of each for you. Having lived in San Francisco, Los Angeles and New York and having spent significant time traveling to places like Seattle, Portland, Chicago, Boston, London and beyond.

As a person of color and someone who was a bit nerdy and introverted in my early 20s, I learned to be more outgoing, embraced apps and optimized my opportunities offline by learning how to improve my appearance, communication skills, confidence and social skills. Read more about me here.

Related reading: Online vs. Offline Dating  | Dating Apps vs. Matchmakers

San Francisco Dating Coach For Men, Women, Dating Coach Bay Area

I offer help in these areas for men and women:

-Taking online dating photos (custom shoots based around your lifestyle, who you want to attract)

-In depth dating profile critiques (app choice, strategy, timing, first impressions, first messages, date ideas)

-Online dating strategy (messaging, date planning, paid features, timing & screening profiles/reading people)

–Virtual consulting services: (virtual or in person: understanding dating patterns: not getting second dates, conversation skills, body language, reading people, screening profiles, attracting more quality people, avoiding time-wasters)

-In-person live sessions: Going to bar, café or social settings and teaching you how to approach people organically, how to read people, what to order, where to sit, how to start conversations and how to be comfortable in your own skin. These sessions feel like you are hanging out with a friend, but with a mock date feel. Great for guys who want to learn to talk to women and great for women who want to invite guys to approach and talk to them in public more often.

–Date observations: This is where I observe actual dates in person (both you and your date) from a distance. From awkward welcomes, body language, behavior when you leave the table to get a drink/use the washroom, to ending dates and goodbyes. I am discreet as they come.

More on dating services here.

Dating Consulting; My approach, philosophy:

I believe in hard work, self-awareness, patience and building a foundation that will allow for sustainable success. If you are looking for a cheerleader to make you feel good, hacks, PUA material or someone to make empty promises, please stop reading and look elsewhere. Testimonials below.

• I am not one of those dating coaches who are still single themselves (many of them are and have been for a while)
• I am not here to make empty promises nor take you on as a client if I don’t think I can help you attract higher quality people.
• My focus is not only helping clients but improving the dating pool; as such, 70% of inquiries are turned down
• You won’t find photoshopped glamour photos of me on this site or in the press (I believe in honesty, substance, and authenticity)
• You will get to work with me directly and not an assistant nor an apprentice. 

—MORE TESTIMONIALS HERE—

Send me a note through the contact page on my website. Please specify what you have done in your life, where you think you struggle, and how I think I can help, and I will get back to you if there is a mutual fit.

I work with folks of good moral character, and I use an extensive background check process to make sure are able to improve the dating pool beyond yourself. I typically accept less than half of the people who contact me as I focus on those who are honest and sincere with their intentions AND willing to put in the work and view this as a partnership rather than an outsourcing effort.

All my offerings are customized based on where I think I can help you the most. I don’t offer cookie-cutter modules or rigid step-by-step programs, nor do I want to waste my time or yours with services that don’t make sense to you.

Consultation is done over video (Google Hangouts) or in person. To expedite the process, I will ask for details to help me get a sense of who you are: photos (appearance, wardrobe), screenshots (dating profiles), efforts (app choices, strategy), and interests (hobbies, classes, travel).

For online dating profile help, check out my dating profile critique here.

Be sure to check out my blog with tips to improve your dating life (offline and online). 

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