Dating Coach San Francisco Bay Area For Men & Women

San Francisco Dating Coach For Introverts, Engineers, Women, Men; Dating Coach Bay Area, Silicon Valley

Dating Coach, San Francisco Bay Area & Beyond; Offline & Online

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Whether you are newly single, new to the city or have struggled to meet people organically out and about or through dating apps, I help individuals who are looking to meet more, quality folks organically with an exhaustive makeover of their online dating profiles and their offline approaches (think of me as a digital version of Hitch without the slapping).

• We will analyze what strategy works best for you – apps (which ones), offline (where to meet people organically) and/or matchmaking services.
• We will analyze your hobbies, lifestyle choices, appearance, communication skills, personality, grooming, style, date planning and more.
• If you struggle with too many matches, cutting off time-wasters, ID’ng red flags and filtering people more efficiently, we should talk.
• I accept <30% of applicants, so I can focus on those who are ready to put in the work and treat this as a partnership, rather than outsourcing their dating efforts.
• Most clients are from LA, NYC, Chicago, Washington DC, Seattle, Philadelphia, Austin, Boston, London, Vancouver, Sydney, Melbourne, Stockholm and beyond.
• Clients include VC’s, therapists, doctors, attorneys, teachers, engineers, introverts, BIPOC, short men, tall women, divorcees, widows, single parents & more.
• If you are looking for someone to blow sunshine up your ass, please stop reading.

I am not going to lie to you, I am not here to make you feel good about yourself either. My only focus is to help you become a better dater, learn about yourself and others, expand your interests, question your thought process, uncover biases and ideally have some fun along the way. I blend analytical rigor with a qualitative approach to dating to give clients the greatest opportunity for success.

Overview of dating services for men, women here. Dating profile consulting services here.

Dating Coach For Men, Women: Why Am I Different? 

• No dating coach has the visual eye for photos (unique, approachable, authentic, candid & vulnerable yet shows people confident in their own skin (no photoshop!)
• No dating coach is as data driven as me but yet values & prioritizes preparedness, focus, ability to read people and use good judgment.
• I understand all things can’t be quantified like simple luck, focus, effort, energy levels, eye contact, execution and good timing.
• No other dating coach is as intimately familiar with each top dating app and is able to dissect them to figure out which ones are best for you (if any).
• No other dating coach knows how to ask the tough questions to identify blind spots, work on opportunities to shine.
• No dating coach will analyze posture, style, hobbies, interests, communication, lifestyle choices, hygiene, religion, politics, writing skills, facial expressions, first impressions, vocal intonation and personality like I do.
• I don’t use charm like other coaches who are great salespeople and likely have no problem meeting people themselves.
• I don’t outsource services to apprentices, or other service providers

While other coaches and online dating experts rely on studies, theoretical scenarios, rigid structures/formulas, their charm or appearance, I rely on real-world experiences, blending qualitative and quantitative data, unknown information, human choice, personalities, things that can’t be captured in data, demographics and of course you and your own unique experience and situation.

I am agnostic when it comes to offline methods, dating apps or sometimes matchmakers. I will break down the pros and cons of each for you. Having lived in San Francisco, Los Angeles and New York and having spent significant time traveling to places like Seattle, Portland, Chicago, Boston, London and beyond.

As a person of color and someone who was a bit nerdy and introverted in my early 20s, I learned to be more outgoing, embraced apps and optimized my opportunities offline by learning how to improve my appearance, communication skills, confidence and social skills. Read more about me here.

San Francisco Dating Coach For Men, Women, Dating Coach Bay Area

I offer help in these areas for men and women:

-Taking online dating photos (custom shoots based around your lifestyle, who you want to attract)

-In depth dating profile critiques (app choice, strategy, timing, first impressions, first messages, date ideas)

-Online dating strategy (messaging, date planning, paid features, timing & screening profiles/reading people)

–Virtual consulting services: (virtual or in person: understanding dating patterns: not getting second dates, conversation skills, body language, reading people, screening profiles, attracting more quality people, avoiding time-wasters)

-In-person live sessions: Going to bar, café or social settings and teaching you how to approach people organically, how to read people, what to order, where to sit, how to start conversations and how to be comfortable in your own skin. These sessions feel like you are hanging out with a friend, but with a mock date feel. Great for guys who want to learn to talk to women and great for women who want to invite guys to approach and talk to them in public more often.

–Date observations: This is where I observe actual dates in person (both you and your date) from a distance. From awkward welcomes, body language, behavior when you leave the table to get a drink/use the washroom, to ending dates and goodbyes. I am discreet as they come.

More on dating services here.

APPLICATION PROCESS, DETAILS & COST FOR DATING COACH SERVICES

Send me a note through the contact page on my website. Please specify what you have done in your life, where you think you struggle, and how I think I can help, and I will get back to you if there is a mutual fit.

I work with folks of good moral character, and I use an extensive background check process to make sure are able to improve the dating pool beyond yourself. I typically accept less than half of the people who contact me as I focus on those who are honest and sincere with their intentions AND willing to put in the work and view this as a partnership rather than an outsourcing effort.

All my offerings are customized based on where I think I can help you the most. I don’t offer cookie-cutter modules or rigid step-by-step programs, nor do I want to waste my time or yours with services that don’t make sense to you.

Consultation is done over video (Google Hangouts) or in person. To expedite the process, I will ask for details to help me get a sense of who you are: photos (appearance, wardrobe), screenshots (dating profiles), efforts (app choices, strategy), and interests (hobbies, classes, travel).

For online dating profile help, check out my dating profile critique here.

Be sure to check out my blog with tips to improve your dating life (offline and online). 

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