Deal-Breakers, Biggest Dating Profile Turn Offs, Online Dating Turn Offs, Photos, Low-Effort, Empty Bios, Tinder, Hinge & Bumble, Men, Women, Instant Left Swipe
It’s very tempting to jump into the deep end and immerse yourself with dating apps. Dating apps are addictive and seemingly simple and straightforward to use. But with a new medium come a number of ways your efforts and intentions can come off negatively or the wrong way.
Anonymity encourages bad etiquette, check-boxes create unhealthy expectations, upfront information creates a false sense of security, easy profile setup creates lazy behavior, people read too much into matches (not a good KPI), access to numerous profiles provides opportunity for temptation or unwillingness to settle down.
If you have a hard time getting likes, receiving messages, getting matches or experience a drop off after exchanging a few messages, you might want to read what I have to say.
Dating apps can be superficial and there is little to no feedback to understand where things went wrong unless you get help.
Related read: How To ID Creepy Men On Dating Apps
What Does Left Swipe Mean? What Is An Automatic Left Swipe? What Does Swipe Left Mean?
A left swipe means you are not interested in someone and wish to move on with respect to reviewing profiles on dating apps.
An automatic left swipe is a phrase used to denote something so bad, obvious or unflattering that the image or content itself is enough to offset any flattering aspects of the dating profile even if the person is super attractive, desirable.
Related read: How To Report People On Dating Apps
Automatic Left Swipes On Hinge & Bumble; Biggest Dating App Turn Offs, Dealbreakers
Dating profiles without a photo get automatic left-swipes. Dating apps that don’t require photos don’t work. If you are too shy to post a photo online, you shouldn’t try online dating.
For those that are new to dating apps, left-swipe is the term used to display disapproval for a profile that surfaces in queue on your phone. If you are interested in person’s dating profile, you swipe right.
I have helped numerous people optimize their profiles while maintaining authenticity, approachability and a touch of candidness.
Below are some tips to identify some red flags while online dating (I provide more detailed, customized advice for clients) including cringeworthy photos as well as awful pickup lines.
Click through the cringy aspects of dating profiles that typically lead to quick left swipes…
For an exhaustive list of online dating red flags and how to spot them, read this post.
DATING PHOTO RED FLAGS: ONE PHOTO ON DATING PROFILE, SHIRTLESS, MIRROR SELFIES
Too Few Photos, Only One Photo In Dating Profile, Dating Profiles With Online One Picture, No Pictures In Dating Profile
Tasteless Shirtless Photos On Tinder, Hinge, Bumble & Other Dating Apps
Excessive Selfies, Bathrooms Selfies On Dating App Photos
The selfies taken from high, awkward angles are a dead giveaway of this behavior. Women are the biggest culprits of these angles in attempt to appear slimmer.
Dark, Distant and Blurry Photos In Dating Profiles
Dark photos with excessive shadows look to mysterious and creepy. Stay away from these when possible.
Only Floating Head Photos, No Full-Body Photos, Unnaturally High, Weird Angles
Inconsistent Looks In Photos, Photos In Profile Don't Look The Same
Snapchat Ears, Filters In Dating Profile Pics
Wearing Hats In Photos - Hatfishing On Dating Profiles
Fish Photos In Dating Profiles
More on cliche dating photos here.
Looking Too Intense In Dating Photos
Tips on how to look more approachable and attractive in dating photos here.
Ambiguous Group Photos, Too Many Group Photos, Photos With Hot Friends
Photos With Exes, Hooters Girls
Cropped Out People, Cropped Exes In Dating Profile Pics
Photos Without You In Them In Dating Profile Photos
The worst offenders are those that use inspirational quotes.
Narcissistic Looks, Narcissists On Dating Apps
Instagram Photos
No Photo Captions, Bad Photo Captions - Low Effort Dating Profiles
Misleading Photo Angles - Photos Taken From High Angles On Dating Profiles
Good Vibes Only / Good Vibez Only - Meaning
Are Selfies Bad For Dating App Profiles? How Many Selfies For A Dating Profile?
Having 1-2 of the photos above is not the end of the world, but if you display a variety of photos and or profile items from these buckets or if you use one of these photos as your main profile, well now you know where you can improve.
First impressions matter and some people may make snap judgments based on one photo, your bio or one prompt answers alone.
Related read: Dating Deal Breakers
How To Spot Fake Accounts and Dating Profiles
Read this: https://eddie-hernandez.com/how-to-spot-fake-profiles-on-dating-apps/
RED FLAGS IN DATING PROFILES: BIOS, PROMPTS & ABOUT ME; LAZY HINGE, BUMBLE PROFILE
Empty Bios, Emojis, Laundry List Of Adjectives, Lazy Prompts
Travel, Wine, Brunch, Hiking - Cliche Dating Profile Interests, Hobbies
If I Super Liked You, It Was By Accident
I'm Actually (Insert Age) - Lying About Age On Dating Apps
Not Looking For Anything Serious, Not Sure What I Am Looking For
Lack of Friends and Social Circles
The Office Quotes On Dating Profiles
# of Countries Visited - Dating App Bio
Empty Adjectives, Biased Self-Assessment
Worst kind of biased bios are ones that are quoted by friends or reference friends as the source. Friends can be biased. https://blog.photofeeler.com/linkedin-tinder-profile-photo-feedback-opinions-input-from-friends/
Joke Profiles & Answers
Defensive, Negative Language i.e. Swipe Left If, No Hookups
(Insert Height) Because Apparently That Matters...
Listing Instagram or Snapchat Username on Profile, Bio On Bumble
Height Requirement - Height Preference On Dating Apps
Just Ask - What Does Just Ask Mean On Dating Apps?
https://eddie-hernandez.com/decoding-dating-profile-phrases/
No Drama - What Does No Drama Mean On Dating Profile?
https://eddie-hernandez.com/decoding-dating-profile-phrases/
Entrepreneur - Dating Profile Bio
DATING APPS
App Choice
It is not unheard for guys to have a relationship focused profile on Hinge or Bumble and a hookup profile on Tinder.
LIKING, COMMENTING, MESSAGING & MATCHING ETIQUETTE
Only Liking Profiles, No Comments
https://eddie-hernandez.com/why-men-need-to-stop-liking-and-start-messaging/
Hi, Hey, What's Up, How's Your (Day, Morning, Evening, Weekend, Quarantine, Holidays)
Generic, Copy-Pasted Opening Lines
Replying Too Quickly
Waiting Too Long To Reply
Trying To Get You To Leave The App & Use Other Apps
One Word Answers, Texts, Replies, Responses & More
DATE PLANNING
Date, Time of Dates
You should remain on high alert on early dates especially if drinks are involved. Don’t let your drink out of sight nor don’t let others order a drink for you while away.
Type of Dates, Locations of Dates
If a date insists on date locations that are far away, always dimly lit, suggests sitting in corners away from others all the time or prefers places aways from his/her work, home areas often then take note. It could be he/she wants to avoid running into people but if you are dating for a while, it could be he/she is seeing someone else or is ashamed of being seen with you.
Worst Online Dating Profiles On Hinge, Bumble, Tinder
Online dating apps can be brutal but they can be extremely helpful with the right preparation, strategy and patience.
They require a set of skills that are similar to meeting people offline with respect to first impressions, communication skills, etiquette, transparency, vulnerability and an ability to read people.
These are just a sample list of things to look out for when meeting strangers especially if you are new to dating apps, are a little too trusting or don’t have friends and family to bounce questions and ideas off of.
Related read: Least Attractive Hobbies & Interests On Dating Profiles
Too Many Followers On Social Media, IG, Having A Public Instagram Account A Turnoff?
These can be signs of a narcissist or someone who is insecure or someone who doesn’t value privacy. Having too many followers on social media can be a turnoff for many people when dating. For others, it can be a sign that you live your life online and lack the ability to be present and lead an authentic life when there is no camera present.
Biggest Dating App Deal Breakers, Online Dating Deal-Breakers, Dating Profile Turn-Offs
Smoking, age gap, distance, education, height, politics, religion, job, no clear photos, no full body photos are some of the biggest deal-breakers on dating profiles. An age gap of 10 years is cited often but that is relative to one’s own age.
As for height, there is a sharp drop off in interest within 6 inches of height. Mind you, people are more picky online than they are in person.
Flip-flops can be a huge deal-breaker as well.
Read more about deal-breakers here.
Worst Phrases Dating Profile, Left Swipe Reasons
-Don’t waste my time…
-Laundry list of requirements…
-Don’t be boring…
-Just ask…
-I don’t know why I am here or I am only here because my friends made this account for me…
-Entertain me or make me laugh…
-I need a guy that can handle me or if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve my best…
-My child/dog is a package deal…
-Looking for something real or no hook-ups…
Related read: Decoding Dating Profiles
Online Dating Coaching For Men, Women
Help w/ swiping, timing, app choice, messages, filters, deal-breakers, paid features, screening profiles, reading people, ID'ing red flags/liars/time-wasters, date planning, & using dating apps more effectively & efficiently.
About Eddie Hernandez
Eddie is a dating coach for men & women in San Francisco (clients in NYC, LA, Chicago, & beyond ), as seen in the NYT & Bumble). He helps w/ profiles, photos, wardrobe, messaging, date ideas, red flags, lifestyle choices, hobbies, grooming/hygiene, communication, social skills & offline efforts.