Best Dating Site/App For Introverts; Is Bumble/Hinge Good For Introverts, Dating Coach For Introverts, Do Dating Apps Work For Introverts?

Being an introvert, is hard – most people are attracted to those that are charming, outgoing, friendly, bubbly and confident. It’s hard to stand out if you are uncomfortable being vulnerable, making a first move or generally dislike putting yourself out there.

Introverts often make the mistakes of discounting their own value, always worrying about others and focusing on what they lack. The ability to focus on your strengths while working on your weaknesses is where you can improve your chances for success on dating apps.

Being sincere is a skill that is tough for many, but can be easy for introverts to be good at. As a dating coach for introverts, I help clients expand hobbies/interests, learn to be strategic/efficient with apps and offline efforts and help them be more confident in their day to day life.

Related read: New To Online Dating (What To Expect)


Is Dating Hard For Introverts? Dating As An Introverted Man

Dating requires people to be proactive, assertive and decisive – all traits that introverts generally struggle with.

What makes it even harder is that even introverted women are attracted to extroverted men. Layer this on top of unfavorable gender ratios, well, things can be very difficult for guys that struggle to express themselves effectively.

Online dating is generally tougher for many people as there are more options on dating apps and people tend to be more selective, picky. Furthermore, introverts struggle to make themselves interesting as their hobbies are viewed as more individualistic and less communal.


Where Do Introverts Find Partners? How Do Introverts Get Dates? Dating Tips For Introverts

For the longest time, most introverts met their partners in straight-forward ways including dating apps, through friends or via common interests and hobbies i.e. dungeons and dragon meetups, chess matches, hackathons, work, libraries, art galleries, book clubs, gardens, museums, parks, bookstores and cafes.


Image Consultant: Wardrobe, Social Skills & Lifestyle

Eddie is an image consultant in San Francisco with clients in NYC, LA, and beyond. He assists clients w/ fashion sense, social skills, hobbies & interests, etiquette, being more approachable around others & making friends.

What Kind Of Girls Like Introverted Guys? Online Dating Tips For Shy Guys

Girls like introverted guys who are willing to express themselves, allow for opportunities to be vulnerable and are passionate about things, ideally some of which they like as well.

Women like guys who are confident in their own skin even if they struggle to convey confidence to others in particular environments on dates. They also like men who are about self-improvement, who are honest, how take care of themselves, who can communicate well.

Generally, introverts can overcome shyness and lack of confidence by displaying passion. Be present, be thoughtful, listen, be interested, ask questions but more so, have conversations. Make eye contact, don’t try to play it cool. Be you. Empathy matters. Use that to your advantage. Be direct, ask her out!

Related read: How To Look More Attractive In Dating Profiles


Do Introverts Prefer Texting? Introvert Dating Problems, How To Talk To An Introvert Partner

Many prefer to communicate via written platforms as it allows them to control the pace and manner in which they express their thoughts without the pressure of in person, real-time reactions. While it’s good to be thoughtful, you risk spontaneity, candid interactions and ability to connect if you are always overthinking things.

Introverts can use their writing to stand out over others who struggle to write about themselves, what they seek and how they wish to present themselves.

Over time, ideally, introverts learn to take risks and become more open. This could be through therapists, improv classes or being comfortable around you. If that doesn’t happen, it could mean things won’t improve between the two of you.

Related read: Online Messaging Etiquette


Do Two Introverts Make A Good Couple? Do Introvert Guys Get Girlfriends? 

Not always. Good communication is needed for successful relationships but more so, the ability to get each other is key. Knowing each other’s comfort levels and expressing themselves in the outlets they prefer is essential for a good relationship.

You have to put yourself out there beyond your comfort zone sometimes, otherwise it may be impossible to express feelings. Dating is not about assurances, as it is about taking risks.

Online Dating Coaching For Men, Women

Help w/ swiping, timing, app choice, messages, filters, deal-breakers, paid features, screening profiles, reading people, ID'ing red flags/liars/time-wasters, date planning, & using dating apps more effectively & efficiently.

Dating App Tips For Shy Guys, Dating Tips For Introverts, Dating Advice For Introverted Guys

Share your passions and show others why you care about the things you love. You can’t get someone else more excited, interested than what you convey. 

Be honest, seek out information, learn to talk about the things that bring you joy, make you curious and inspire you. These are things you should feel confident in and by focusing on these topics of conversation, you can operate in an environment that works for you.


Introvert Dating Site, Introvert Dating App? Dating Website For Shy Individuals

There is none. Use mainstream apps. No need for another niche app. Any site that advertises itself as a dating website for introverts should be used with extreme caution.


Is Tinder Good For Introverts? Is Bumble Good For Introverts? Is Hinge Good For Introverts?

Not really. Read this. Bumble and Tinder are generally used by more narcissists, superficial folks and those seeking attention. Introverts don’t have much luck on these apps relative to others.


Dating Site For Loners, Dating App For Shy Guys, Dating Website For Introverts

It’s highly recommended that someone does not use apps if they are lonely. One should focus on making friends first as apps can be extremely difficult for those if they don’t have friends, lack social etiquette or don’t have others in their lives at the moment. You will need friends to talk about dates, get advice and provide help/feedback for you.


Dating A Shy Guy With No Experience, Dating An Inexperienced Man

If you are patient, you can mold a guy to be the guy you want but most women want a date-ready man. Find his hobbies and passions, create a safe space for him to be himself. Let him know it’s ok to be vulnerable, quirky, animated and a goof. For more tips, you contact me for coaching services.


First Date Tips For Introverts, Date Ideas For Introverts, First Date With An Introverted Guy

Research places ahead of time, examine places during days/times you expect to go on dates. Get a feel for different seats and areas of a bar or restaurant. Typically, Sunday – Wednesdays have slower nights and fewer crowds. Avoid trendy places or spots that just opened and have a strong buzz. Figure out seats that have some privacy or are not in the middle of bars/restaurants, i.e. booths, corner seats, or hidden around nooks.

You can also pick low-key first dates like coffee and a walk, coffee and a street walk tour or grab tea at a fun tea house.

Do Dating Apps Work For Introverts? Does Online Work For Introverts?

They definitely can but not always. It will depend on your demographics, hobbies, photos, gender, age, lifestyle, communication/writing skills, effort, location, realistic expectations, self-work and more. Similarly, you will have to try harder than non-introverts who might be more experienced with getting noticed, making a first move and more confident with their writing and photos.

Never rely on dating apps for all or even most of your dating efforts.


Do Dating Apps Work For Loners? Do Dating Sites Work For Loners?

They largely do not. Loners typically lack interesting hobbies and interests, good photos, get feedback on their appearance, social skills, communication skills, lifestyle choices, app choices and morel. Having friends helps with taking photos and getting help with dating apps. Many loners have photos that are selfies (not recommended) and have boring profiles (hard to stand out).


Dating Profile Critique, Review Services

App Choice, Photo Critique (Order, Captions), Bios, Prompts; Wardrobe, Hobbies, Grooming  Recommendations, Body Language, Facial Expressions, Lifestyle Choices (Men & Women).

About Eddie Hernandez

Eddie is a dating coach for men & women in San Francisco (clients in NYC, LA, Chicago, & beyond ), as seen in the NYT & Bumble). He helps w/ profiles, photos, wardrobe, messaging, date ideas, red flags, lifestyle choices, hobbies, grooming/hygiene, communication, social skills & offline efforts.