What Is Hinge’s Invited You To Start The Chat? How Does It Work? Hinge’s Invitation To Start A Conversation Feature. Mark Unresponded Messages

If you have used dating apps long enough, you will noticed a large portion of likes or comments turn into matches. Of those limited matches, few turn into conversations. There are a variety of reasons for this inefficiency including: volume of matches (aka DRM – dating relationship management), lost interest, better options presented, other person did not initiate conversation, never intended to communicate (bot, spammer, looking for Instagram likes, website traffic, accumulating likes on apps) etc.

Hinge released a feature called ‘Invite to Chat’ whereby people who have received a like or comment notification can then turn around and invite the individual who liked or commented on a photo or prompt to chat. The aim here is to show an intent to engage in conversation without having to use words. This feature contains the ability to mark messages as unresponded. These are gentle/ungentle reminders to chat.

Liking vs. Messaging

In previous posts, I have always encouraged users to never like but rather message people directly for best results. But if you are sent this generic message after you have commented on a photo or prompt / answer already, then take this as a red flag. More on liking vs messaging here: https://eddie-hernandez.com/why-men-need-to-stop-liking-and-start-messaging/

Hinge Preferred Membership

With that said, Hinge Preferred Membership allows users to see who likes them so that one can be more efficient in messaging those that have already indicated an interest of some sort. The fallback here is you are unable to see people who have not liked you yet. Waiting for people can backfire as time is of the essence on dating apps. More on the features here: https://eddie-hernandez.com/preferred-hinge-membership/

What Can You Infer About People Who Use This Generic Prompt?

Inviting someone to chat after a comment is already sent is lazy. People like this are looking to be entertained. Use it as a way to analyze someone. Similarly if you send a like and the other person sends this message, it is slightly better but chances are neither party is that interested nor outgoing enough to put themselves out there.

What To Do If You Receive This Prompt

On occasion, people may not see your original comment. It’s rare but Hinge is one of the buggiest dating apps out there. If you do get this prompt after sending out the initial comment, merely point out that the conversation has been started. If no response or if you receive a lame response, move one. Rarely do people not notice the initial message and a simple reminder/prompt is enough to rekindle a conversation but don’t hold out too much hope. Many folks on dating sites are flakey, lazy and inconsiderate. Focus your time on those that respect your time.

About Eddie Hernandez 

Eddie Hernandez is a professional photographer specializing in natural, candid online dating photos. Featured in the SFGate, ABC7News, East Bay Express, Salon; contributor to Good Men Project, Plenty Of Fish and Meddle. In addition to photos, he provides guidance around app choice, bio optimization, messaging techniques, wardrobe advice and date ideas. https://eddie-hernandez.com/contact/

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