While photos (particularly your main profile photo) will have the single biggest impact on your dating success, bios and questions should not be ignored. An incomplete bio or one-worded answers to questions can signal lack of effort, creativity or sincerity. If you are serious about meeting quality people, don’t skimp on your questions and answers. (Click here to read up on how to optimize you bio). Here are some of my favorite questions to use on your profile that allow for creativity, randomness, controversy, insightfulness and personality.
I know the best spot in town for – shows your knowledge as well as reveals possible compatibility for similar taste.
I’m convinced that – allows for some open-ended answers and conversation as well as an unpopular opinion.
A life goal of mine – shows ambition, passion and priorities
I flip out over – provides an opportunity to voice guilty pleasures, trivial obsessions and passions.
My biggest date fail – can show your ability to laugh at yourself but could also be TMI.
We’re the same type of weird if – things can get weird quickly or they can reveal something that is flattering but not obvious. Think hard before answering this.
A social cause I care about – might be easier to share this part of your life instead of through a cliche selfie/photo.
There are also some questions you want to be careful of. Answering a certain way can sabotage your profile or make you seem not so interesting. Here are some questions and the ways they can go wrong quickly.
The most spontaneous thing I’ve done – if it is not that spontaneous or interesting it can make you seem dull.
Fact about me that surprises people – if it is not that interesting or flattering it can make you seem dull.
Try to guess this about me – seems a bit lazy, vague or self-centered
A Shower Thought I had recently had – things could get weird quickly, tread lightly
The one thing you should know about me is – this could be a bit too revealing too quickly. It could also be a warning that makes people think twice or give pause.
I’ll pick the topic if you start the conversation – lazy, unoriginal.
The biggest risk I’ve taken – make sure it’s risky yet not weird nor wreckless.
Something that’s non-negotiable for me is – your answer can come off as being too negative even if your match is agreeable. Use some humor when in doubt.
You should *not* go out with me if – your answer can come off as being too negative even if your match is agreeable. Use some humor when in doubt.
The best way to ask me out is by – can seem conceited, high maintenance. Injecting humor helps to soften the blow.
Teach me something about – no one wants homework or assignments
Qualities I’m looking for in a plus-one wedding date – you can appear to be prioritizing finding a date so you don’t show up to a wedding by yourself vs actually looking for someone you are are interested in. Be careful how you approach this.
All I ask is that you – can come off as having very low standards or expectations. Be creative if you use this.
I’ll pick the first part of the date, you pick the second – mighty presumptive and eager possibly. You don’t want to seem to rigid with plans or want to lock yourself into a long date without an out.
I’ll fall for you if – some guys might approach this as an engineering feat, if I do X you will be mine. Be more demanding.
Now that you have all the good questions for your bio, make sure you are not self-sabotaging your efforts by having a cliche profile (check out the cliche bingo profile card to see how original your profile is).