Examples of Conversation Starters + Openers: Good Hinge Prompts To Use On Your Dating Profile + How To Answer Them
As an online dating photographer in San Francisco, I have reviewed and improved countless dating profiles, photos and bios over the years. While photos (particularly your main profile photo) will have the single biggest impact on your dating success, bios and questions should not be ignored. An incomplete bio or one-worded answers to questions can signal lack of effort, creativity or sincerity. If you are serious about meeting quality people, don’t skimp on your questions and answers.
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A good prompt on Hinge can inspire good creative answers as well as responses from potential suitors. An unpopular opinion can stir up good conversation and banter while a bad prompt and answer can offset your good photos. A good prompt can invite an opening to be random, quirky, unique, insightful, bold, humble if done correctly.
Hinge offers over 75 different prompts to users on the app. Some are easier to find than others while new ones are released over time. Here are some of my favorite questions to use on your profile that allow for creativity, randomness, controversy, insightfulness and personality.
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I know the best spot in town for –
This shows your knowledge of local hotspots, ability to be in the know, hobbies, interests, lifestyle as well possible compatibility for similar taste.
Pro-tip: Knowing about the best spot is great but if you have other places to compare the dish/item to in city that will lend more credibility and expertise.
I get along best with people –
My greatest complement about people I have met, know and surround myself with are the type of people they themselves surround themselves with. Knowing the type of people you like to add to your circle is quite revealing and shows how you view others.
I want someone who –
This is a great prompt for those who are direct, know what they want and not afraid to ask for it. Focusing on character, personality, how someone views the world, what they prioritize will go a long way vs. listing dealbreakers.
I’m convinced that –
This allows for some open-ended answers and conversation as well as an unpopular opinion. It’s an opening to be bold, assertive, random.
Dont’ hate me if –
This is one of my favorite prompts. If done well can balance self deprecation and boldness with a possible humble brag.
A life goal of mine –
Shows ambition, passion and priorities. You can take a less serious tone and offer something playful, silly or self-deprecating.
I flip out over –
This provides an opportunity to voice guilty pleasures, trivial obsessions and passions. An ability to nerd out over something obscure is more effective than professing your love of The Office, Game of Thrones or something cliche that offers no insight into personality.
My biggest date fail –
This can show your ability to laugh at yourself but could also be TMI. Self-deprecating humor can show an understated sense of confidence in your own skin if done correctly.
We’re the same type of weird if / I’m weirdly attracted to –
Things can get weird quickly or they can reveal something that is flattering but not obvious. Think hard before answering this but if you are able to nerd out and connect over something you are passionate about, that can be just enough to open the door.
A social cause I care about –
This might be easier to share this part of your life instead of through a cliche selfie/photo. This opening allows for a small humble brag about your unselfish efforts as well as something near and dear to you.
Favorite holiday tradition –
You can definitely play it safe and show you are close to your family and have some great rituals or you can highlight some interesting, quirky traditions that give a glimpse of what one can expect if things go well between the two of you. Helpful if you family is local or lives in a cool part of world, not so much if it is somewhere where you or your partner don’t want to go 1-2x per year.
I’m overly competitive about –
Think carefully about this, answer wrong and you can get instantly instantly ignored. Answer correctly and you may have found your “partner in crime”. By the way, don’t use that term on profile.
I’m actually legitimately bad at –
This can create an opening for admitting something embarrassing which can be viewed as a sign of confidence, comfort in your own skin. However, pick something like laundry, dishes, eye contact or something personal and you risk scaring off a potential suitor.
Worst fad I participated in –
Choose wisely on this. Pick the right fad and you might bond over something so terrible a decision that you can connect over your dorkiness, silliness. Choose wrong and you might be seen as gullible, seeking attention/acceptance from others or lame.
One thing I’ll never do again / Worst idea I’ve ever had –
Something you did a long time ago, something people are curious about but never muster up the confidence can be revealing and a great way to show how you have grown up but if you come off as resentful, negative or too gullible it could hurt your profile. Done tastefully, revealing something clumsy can be quite endearing.
The award I should be nominated for –
A good humble brag about something unique can go far in describing something random about yourself but if award is mundane it can be a waste of space on your profile.
On my bucket list / Next vacation spot
Is you bucket list or vacation spot interesting? Is it insightful? Is it more than 2 words? Explain.
I spend most of my money on –
For those looking to meet someone financially responsible, well off this could be a way of communicating your financial situation.
My most irrational fear –
Vulnerability is always a good thing when done right but make sure what you write is not revealing or TMI.
Be Careful With These Hinge Prompts
As many good prompts that exist on Hinge there are also also some questions you want to be careful of. Answering a certain way can sabotage your profile or make you seem not so interesting, weird, or creepy. Here are some questions and the ways they can go wrong quickly.
–>Read The Worst Hinge Prompts and Answers Here: https://eddie-hernandez.com/worst-hinge-prompts-and-answers/
A random fact I love –
More than likely someone will copy/paste or paraphrase something from wikipedia, facebook, or instagram. This prompt is the modern day version of inspirational quotes. Empty, cliche and doesn’t reveal much about someone other than their ability to copy and paste.
Give me travel tips to –
Could be a good idea to crowdsource your trip and show what kind of traveler you are but it can also invite penpals (not dates) and suggest you are lazy in your own trip-planning efforts or don’t have friends to get this info from. It’s a great way to see if someone is compatible and knowledgeable but you can come off as seeking a tour guide vs a date.
We’ll get along if –
Boiling down compatibility to one trait, hobby, passion, interest is a bit overly eager and presumptuous.
All I ask is that you –
Seems simple, straightforward but you’ll often get people answering this by saying be honest, don’t lie, are not a player etc. These answers indicate a sense of insecurity or inability to read someone or desire to try to shield oneself from being hurt. Nothing wrong with this but putting it out there rather than using good judgment, asking questions, analyzing profiles etc. is typically showing too much vulnerability.
You should not go out with me if –
Stating deal-breakers and being negative is usually frowned upon but your sense of humor can catch someone’s attention.
Don’t hate me if –
Usually people will list something like pineapple on pizza which is a bit lame and too cliche. Taking an unpopular opinion is only helpful here if it is original, thought-provoking rather than insignificant.
Pet Peeves –
This is an obvious prompt to maneuver carefully around. Most people will list something to the effect of something they cannot tolerate (political affiliation, players, etc.) Rather than focus on what annoys you, I recommend conveying what you appreciate it. What you can do instead here is list something mundane to show a playful side of you but make sure your other prompts and answers are more substantive.
The Sign Of A Great First Date –
This is rather an ambiguous and misleading prompt in my eyes. Most people convey something too structured, too fairy-tale like, or something too specific. A great date can be had in a variety of ways so trying to engineer the perfect answer to this seems a bit too robotic.
How My Mother Would Describe Me –
For men, this can quickly associate you as a momma’s boy. Nothing wrong with that but leading in with this can be tricky unless there is an incredibly witty and creative answer to follow this up. This is the most challenging prompt to be successful at in my opinion.
The most spontaneous thing I’ve done –
If it is not that spontaneous or interesting it can make you seem dull. It doesn’t have to be the item that garners the most Instagram likes but something that took courage can be effective.
Fact about me that surprises people –
If it is something obvious or not that interesting nor flattering it can make you seem dull. Some things that are surprising about you might be better suited in person with context, build-up.
Try to guess this about me –
Seems a bit lazy, vague or self-centered. This is one of the worst prompts on Hinge but I like that it remains but it outs people easily through self-sabotaging efforts.
A Shower Thought I had recently had –
Things could get weird quickly, tread lightly. With that said, this is you best chance to be random.
The one thing you should know about me is –
This could be a bit too revealing too quickly. It could also be a warning that makes people think twice or give pause. If you can spin this in a way to be a little silly or self-deprecating you might be better off here.
I’ll pick the topic if you start the conversation –
Lazy, unoriginal. Again one of the worst prompts on Hinge. Glad it exists to out people easily.
The biggest risk I’ve taken –
Make sure it’s risky yet not weird nor wreckless. Injecting some humor here can help reveal that you are not totally stiff.
Something that’s non-negotiable for me is –
Your answer can come off as being too negative even if your match is agreeable. Use some humor when in doubt to reveal a stubborn silly obsession.
You should *not* go out with me if –
Your answer can come off as being too negative even if your match is agreeable. Use some humor when in doubt to see what kind of person is receptive to your sense of humor.
The best way to ask me out is by –
Can seem conceited, high maintenance or imply you don’t get asked out enough or your time is wasted by those that play games or are indirect. Injecting humor helps to soften the blow. Think carefully about this. ‘Just ask’ is the worst answer to this and all prompts.
Teach me something about –
No one wants homework or assignments. Most people using this prompt can be seen as lazy or unmotivated. However being honest about something you want to learn more about and are shy i.e. women asking about sour beers can perk up attention.
Qualities I’m looking for in a plus-one wedding date –
You can appear to be prioritizing finding a date so you don’t show up to a wedding by yourself vs actually looking for someone you are are interested in. Be careful how you approach this.
All I ask is that you –
This can come off as having very low standards or expectations. Be creative if you use this. Use some humor or silly request.
I’ll pick the first part of the date, you pick the second –
This can be mighty presumptive and eager possibly. You don’t want to seem to rigid with plans or want to lock yourself into a long date without an out.
The secret to get to know me is –
It’s not a secret if you tell them. Also, giving people homework by using the cliche response is a no-no.
I’ll fall for you if –
Some guys might approach this as an engineering feat, if I do X you will be mine. Be more demanding. Be silly here. Most cliche answer: ‘if you trip me’ – try harder.
Similarly, putting conditions on your match early on is a bit overkill. Some things are implied. Case in point.
My last meal –
This is as insightful as your favorite coffee drink or place. Unless you get specific or something unique, you might be wasting space here.
Where to find me at the gym –
Posting and answering this question is the equivalent of posting a gym selfie or getting marathon stickers for your car. Your physique should speak for itself.
Unusual skill –
Is you skill relevant, interesting? Most are mundane.
Dating Me Is Like –
This is a tough one. It teeters on self-awareness, confidence but suggests you have dated A LOT of people. Usually these comments are biased (self or friends and family). Rarely are they humble brages, accurate or modest.
About Eddie Hernandez
Eddie Hernandez is a professional photographer specializing in natural, candid online dating photos. Featured in the SFGate, ABC7News, East Bay Express, Salon; contributor to Good Men Project, Plenty Of Fish and Meddle. In addition to photos, he provides guidance around app choice, bio optimization, messaging techniques, wardrobe advice and date ideas. https://eddie-hernandez.com/contact/
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