Best Dating Podcasts, Research, Articles, Dating App Statistics, Studies, Books
These are not endorsements nor recommendations but rather a library of well-rounded information and online dating resources for those looking to get a detailed set of views, opinions and studies.
There is a lot of bad advice out there but these are ones I come back to and suggest to clients in addition to posts on my blog including this exhaustive step by step checklist on online dating success factors. Keep on reading to learn about my online dating guides below.
Related Reading: Online Dating FAQ Guide For Beginners
Online Dating Terms, Lingo, Slang, Meanings and Definitions; Dating App Code Words
Sample list of terms, slang, jargon to familiarize yourself with millennial dating lingo like catfishing. I don’t recommend using these in your vocabulary, but it’s important to be aware of them to ID immature folks.
Online Dating FAQ’s, Dating Apps For Beginners, Online Dating Tips; Dating App Questions
Online Dating Frequently Asked Questions – Dating App FAQ’s
Dating App Profile Photo Intro Guide – Photo Tips For Dating Profiles
Best Dating Apps – Best Dating Apps For Serious Relationships
Best Gay, LGBTQ+ Dating Apps – Best Dating Sites For Gay Men, Lesbians & More
Best Online Dating Podcasts, Dating App Podcast – Dating Resources, Best Dating Podcasts
Maureen O’Connor (New York Magazine’s Sex Lives Podcast). Unfortunately this podcast is no longer producing new episodes (DAMN IT MAUREEN!) but you can still access the podcast on most apps, the link above points to her site which lists some of her favorite episodes that cover contemporary culture around sex (not focused on dating apps but does some episodes do).
Definitely worth listening to. iTunes Link
Verge/The Cut: Land of the Giants
Online Dating Documentaries (Video), Shows, Online Dating TV Shows
CBS’ Dating apps turn finding love into a video game — and lots of people lose.
Netflix Indian Matchmaking Show – https://www.netflix.com/watch/80244565?source=35
New To Online Dating - Beginner Guide To Dating Apps
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Hitch – The movie that inspired me to do what I do for a living today…
Books on Dating, Best Online Dating Books, Best Books On Dating Apps
Read Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and American Sociologist from New York University professor Eric Klinenberg. Anecdotal observations, investigative studies about dating culture specifically online dating culture from the lens of a guy living in NYC.
Outrageous stories, quirky examples of the pleasures and perils of dating in the digital age. Available on book as well as on audiobook (one of the few audiobooks that are done justice).
Malcolm Gladwell’s Talking to Strangers. This book is a great read and helps to shed insight on why people have a hard time reading and analyzing strangers whether its on one meeting or knowing someone for a period of time.
Many people have reservations about meeting people through dating apps, but dating apps are merely a channel, deception can occur offline as well.
Online Dating Studies, Statistics, Psychology Research, Dating App Research Studies
The Economist – How the Internet Has Changed Online Dating. This article shows how technology and app culture has impacted how people meet, behave and interact. Fascinating take only the way the Economist can do it.
This Atlantic article (A Psychologist Guide to Online Dating) is a great source for delving into the world of online dating and how it affects the mind. It’s a primer on the pitfalls, limitations and shortsightedness of dating apps.
Dating App Fatigue, The Atlantic article is another great read especially for those on dating apps for a long time and either don’t get likes and matches, meet the wrong people or start to have aspects of their lives deteriorate. An intro guide to the psychological effects of long-term dating app usage and what happens when you use this as your only method for meeting women and stop using offline techniques.
Huffington Post – The Perfect Online Dating Profile Is Not Perfect At All (Goes on to describe how the best profiles are imperfect, show candidness and vulnerability vs being focused on portrait type photos.
Washington Posts’ Researchers have figured out the one thing not to do in your online dating profile is a great read that discusses some myths behind dating profiles and what you should focus on instead.
BBC’s Game Theory and Finding Love via Online Dating
Deception in Mobile Dating Conversations – https://academic.oup.com/joc/article-abstract/68/3/547/4986443
Pew Research on American Dating – 10 Facts About Americans and Online Dating
Online Dating Blogs (Hinge, Tinder, Bumble), Online Dating Advice Blog
Online Dating Background Checks, Dating App Profile Background Checks
Dating Red Flags (Giving Me The Icks)
How to ID red flags in effort, photos, bios, prompts, messages, date ideas, social media, texting and more. Things that give people the icks.
Online Dating Articles, Dating App Studies
Looking Too Intense by Photofeeler is a must for all guys planning on using dating apps. It discusses the ways guys self-sabotage their photos by trying too hard to look macho, sexy, confident in their photos. Although I don’t agree with using Photofeeler to make all your dating choices with respect to photos, this article is one of two I recommend reading.
Asking Friends for Opinions on Your Pics/Profiles? Why You Should Stop by Photofeeler – this is the other article I recommend reading before setting up a dating profile. It shows the biases that are presented when asking friends for help with photos. Note that most people don’t even show their profiles to anyone – I am usually the first person they seek help from.
Photofeeler’s Why Selfies Make You Look Bad – Pretty obvious but this goes into some technical reasons why to ditch selfies as well as briefly touching on why they are bad from a societal and cultural standpoint.
Online Dating: Are You Attracting the Right Type– This article talks about what people signal and what they attract through their profiles. Not super comprehensive but it does touch upon the pillars from which I try to coach folks on their dating efforts. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-the-sheets/201906/online-dating-are-you-attracting-the-right-type
Why Women Keep Ignoring Your Online Dating Messages – this CNET articles is more of an advice column with a Q&A design but it does hammer home some key tips on why most men struggle with messaging women.
New Yorker’s Rage of the Incels is a dark but necessary look into the lives of involuntary celibates (incels). Not exclusive to online dating but an insightful read nonetheless.
Atlantic Article – Why Smart, Successful People Aren’t Happy In Life
Huffington Post: In Partisan 2019, Listing ‘Moderate’ (Politics) Can Hurt You On Dating Apps. Pretty insightful read, infers many conservatives list moderate to avoid automatic left-swipe.
The Atlantic: The Dating Market Is Getting Worst: Looks at dating over time and the problems with abundance of choice, time spent on apps, incels, etc.
Dating Profile Ghostwriter Reflects On Very Troubling Profession: https://www.fox13news.com/news/dating-profile-ghostwriter-reflects-on-very-troubling-profession
How To Prevent Loneliness During Social Distancing: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-prevent-loneliness-in-a-time-of-social-distancing/
Online Dating Ghostwriters, Impersonators https://qz.com/1247382/online-dating-is-so-awful-that-people-are-paying-virtual-dating-assistants-to-impersonate-them/
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Regional, Gender Pieces (Dating in SF, NYC, LA, Seattle, Washington DC, Silicon Valley)
Seattle – https://www.damemagazine.com/2014/05/23/amazon-killing-my-sex-life/
San Francisco – Dating In San Francisco
Dating In New York City: Dating In NYC
Dating in Los Angeles: Dating in LA
Dating Someone In Tech: https://eddie-hernandez.com/dating-someone-in-tech/
Silicon Valley aka Man Jose – https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/editaudio/single-swipe-repeat/e/62172224
Secrets Of Silicon Valley Dating Scene – https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/justinesharrock/the-secrets-of-silicon-valleys-dating-scene
Women Need To Date Carpenters Like Men Date Yoga Instructors – Great article highlighting how preferences and deal-breakers get in the way of finding love.
Vogue article regarding Dating Men in Silicon Valley “The odds are good, but the goods are odd.”
Guardian’s: How to speak Silicon Valley: 53 essential tech-bro terms explained
Online Dating Surveys
SurveyMonkey – Conquer Love with these Dating App Statistics. A bit dated but interesting nonetheless. One of the larger surveys spanning multiple dating apps.
Conversation Nation – Plenty Of Fish Survey – Annual survey of over 2,000 users.
Online Dating Safety Guides
FTC (Federal Trade Commission) – Online Romance Imposter Scams.
Dating Site Safety: How To Report Online Dating Scams, Romance Scammers
The FTC has a great resource of possible types of scams to look out for. Read up on the latest information they provide as well as their online form to report scams.
Additionally, the FBI has an online form to report online crimes – check out that form as well.
Reddit Tinder, Female Dating Strategy, RoastMe Reddit, Dating Profile Critiques
RoastMe Reddit: r/roastme
Online Dating Reddit: r/onlinedating
Hinge Reddit: r/hingeapp
Bumble Reddit: r/Bumble
Reddit Tinder: r/tinder
Female Dating Strategy Reddit: r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Reddit Dating Over Thirty: Dating Over Thirty Reddit
Manipulation Tactics While Dating
Signs of manipulation while dating. What to pay attention to, what not to overlook and more. Manipulation tactics while texting, early dating and in long-term relationships.
Professional Matchmaker Reviews, Ghostwriter Reviews, High-End Matchmaking Services
Most matchmakers use Trustpilot for their main review source. I do not trust Trustpilot reviews. Google and Yelp reviews are more in line with actual results but even then make sure there is a substantial number of reviews from people, with photos, full names from each account.
Yelp actually filters reviews for people who are new to the site, don’t have many reviews, lack photos or activity on the site. Read these complaints about their practices here. You won’t look at their reviews the same way again.
Quora on Trustpilot | Trustpilot Reviews | Trustpilot Analysis | BBC Trustpilot Watchdog Report
Reasons why you shouldn’t hire a matchmaker or ghostwriter. With that said, most success stories are not publicized for privacy reasons as there is still a stigma around using dating apps, matchmakers, etc. Take each review with a grain of salt.
Read more about Dating Apps vs Matchmakers, Matchmaking Service Reviews and more here in this guide.
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About Eddie Hernandez
Eddie is a dating coach for men & women, as seen in the NYT & Bumble). He helps w/ profiles, photos, wardrobe, messaging, date ideas, lifestyle choices, hobbies, social skills, screening time-wasters & meeting people offline.