Average Number Of Likes Received On Dating Apps: Men & Women

How Many Likes To Men & Women Receive On Dating Apps?

One of the common questions I receive from men and women seeking help with their dating photos and online dating is how many likes do men and women get on dating apps. They mostly pose this question from a base of comparison wishing to see how they compare and how they can improve. I get it, you want to know how you are doing compared to your competition. 

I am a data-driven individual but the question asked is not a good one. It fails to consider many things that are relevant for analysis. Things like gender, age, app choice, how long the person has been on the apps, whether they send likes themselves, premium features used, filters, photos, settings and more.

You can easily adjust a few items and increase the number of likes received rather quickly and easily - this is not that hard. The better metric to seek out is being more efficient, getting more likes back per like sent, having better conversations from said dates and the like. These qualitative metrics are harder to quantify so people would rather stick to superficial ones despite having backgrounds in engineering, math or having advanced degrees from top schools.

Similarly, the quality of likes, in my opinion, is much more important the the volume of likes received. You can show more skin and get more likes. You can do cringy poses, write hot takes or make awful facial expressions to increase or decrease likes received.

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Why Am I Not Getting Any Likes On Hinge? 

If you are basing by the number of likes you get on Bumble, then it helps to understand the differences between the apps. Bumble offers more free likes to users than Hinge. The other point to consider is that things like filters and settings greatly affect who sees you. It takes time for people to see your profile, send likes and more, especially if you have a free account as it will take longer to see interest. 

Why Am I Not Getting Any More Likes On Dating Apps?

New users are boosted upon registration and will be shown to many people within the first few hours and days. Once your profile is shown enough times, Hinge will adjust visibility (who you are shown too, how often you are shown) based on your right-swipe worthiness. For most people, the number of likes received will decrease over time unless you are really high in demand.

If you want to continue getting likes on Hinge, work on your profile. Improve your worst photos, fill out your answers to prompts and bio, add captions to your photos and send comments along with likes.

Related read: No Likes On Hinge

Average Bumble Likes A Day For A Girl?

It can vary, but typically women get more likes on Bumble than Hinge, CMB and other similar apps. Reason being is that the location changes due to GPS location vs locked in location on Hinge etc. Similarly, some guys on Bumble play the volume game and send likes out to all/most women given they would rather spend less time browsing profiles and wait to see who likes them first before investing any more time than needed. This is not all men many do this given higher average free likes alotted per day on the app (over Hinge at least).

Rather than concern yourself about who likes you, focus on yourself and what you can control, influence i.e. bios, prompts, photos, lifestyle choices, etc.

Why Average Number Of Likes Is Meaningless

If you want to some track performance, a better measurement for something quick and more insightful is median. There are lots of trash profiles on dating apps that skew average likes per user way down. Similarly, given the number of men vs women on most dating apps as well as societal norms, men send women way more likes than women send out. A lot of men play the volume game whereby they send a bunch of likes out and focus on women they are most interested in that respond. This is why a lot of guys seemingly don't send messages or reply after matching. 

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How Many Likes On Hinge, Bumble Is Normal For Men?

For guys, the biggest factor aside from height, ethnicity, comments, lifestyle and looks is number of likes sent to women. A lot of women will not send likes first. They will wait to see who likes them first and go from there. Given a lot of guys send low-effort likes, it's common for women to match low-effort energy (not always but it happens enough). Guys typically get more likes with age assuming they do the self-work. 

How Many Likes On Hinge, Bumble Is Normal For Women?

For women, it will depend on things like settings on apps (who can see you on Hinge), looks but sadly age. There are a lot of guys on dating apps who see endless options on dating apps and aim for women much younger than them even if they have no shot in hell.Things like incognito mode can drastically reduce visibility and thus incoming likes as it will be driven by how many likes you send out first.

Tl;dr

Yes, women get more likes on dating apps than men on average but that doesn't mean that it's easier for them. Higher likes received also means more unwanted attention, more low effort, more guys who don't read profiles or creepy men reaching out to women way to young for them. It's this kind of behavior that leads women to spend less time on apps, send fewer likes, have fewer conversations and abandon apps more quickly than men.

As a guy, you may say why bother with dating apps then. For most men, this is the right mindset. Most guys lack self-awareness, effort, hobbies, friends etc. and shouldn't bother with apps. The blame is not entirely on men but given ratio of men to women on apps, the burden is on them to do better. 

Men and women should both focus on getting fewer likes but from higher quality profiles. Doing this is possible but it takes work. No single change or optimization will likely make a visible difference. It takes time to get better profiles, write better comments, optimize prompts and be more selective with you send likes to. 

There will be ebbs and flows on dating apps but over time, those large variations will be reduced and you will have a better sense of steady state with consistent app use and likes sent. For most people, sending too many likes can mean lower visibility on dating profiles and seeing less desirable profiles. People come on and off the apps all the time, be patient. The only thing you can control is how you present yourself.