Dating Coach NYC – Dating Coach New York For Women & Men

Dating Coach New York: Help w/ Dating Apps, First Dates, Appearance, Hobbies, Lifestyle Choices, Screening People, & Meeting People Offline; Dating Coach NYC

Whether you are newly single, new to the city or have struggled to meet people organically out and about or through dating apps, I help individuals who are looking to meet more, quality folks organically with an exhaustive makeover of their online dating profiles and their offline approaches (think of me as a digital version of Hitch without the slapping).

We will analyze what strategy works best for you – apps (which ones), offline (where to meet people organically) and/or matchmaking services. We will analyze your hobbies, lifestyle choices, appearance, communication skills, personality, grooming, style, date planning and more. If you struggle with messaging and conversations, I will point you to podcasts, books, shows, news/culture sources to get you up to speed.

If you struggle with choosing unavailable people, liars, or people who are not good for you, I will help you to be more efficient and selective. If you lack confidence or look to others for validation or self-worth, I will help you to lead a more fulfilling life so that you can become a high-value individual, vs constantly worrying about what others think of you.

Read about me in the NYTimes, WSJ. I was approached by Match group to work for them a while back, but declined, so I can maintain complete autonomy and provide unbiased advice for clients. As an dating coach, I accept less than 30% of applicants these days, so I can focus on those that are actually ready to put in the work and treat this as a partnership, rather than outsourcing their dating efforts.


Dating Coach New York For Men, Women + Dating App Coach+ Offline Dating Help

Most of my clients come from major cities like SF, LA, NYC, Chicago, Washington DC, Seattle, Philadelphia, Austin, Boston, London, Vancouver, Sydney, Melbourne, Stockholm and beyond. If you are looking for someone to blow sunshine up your ass, please stop reading.

I know that dating is like in NYC – flaking, endless options, people not wanting to settle down, liars, narcissists and those with Peter Pan Syndrome. Whether you are a short guy, POC, over 40, very picky, very busy or just feel lost, please get in touch sooner than later.

I am not going to lie to you, I am not here to make you feel good about yourself. My only focus is to help you become a better dater, learn about yourself and others, expand your interests, question your thought process and ideally have some fun along the way. I blend analytical rigor with a qualitative approach to dating to give clients the greatest opportunity for success. 

Overview of dating services for men, women here. Dating profile consulting services here.

Dating Apps vs Matchmakers, Do Professional Matchmakers Work? Bay Area, San Francisco, New York, Los Angeles

Why Am I Different? Styling, Bios, Texting, Date Ideas, Advice, Appearance, Etiquette, Hobbies, Interests

-No other dating coach has the visual eye for photos that are unique, approachable, authentic, candid and vulnerable yet shows people confident in their own skin (no photoshop or filters here!)

-No other dating coach is as data driven as me but yet values and prioritizes serendipity, things that can’t be quantified like simple luck, focus, effort, energy levels, eye contact and good timing.

-No other dating coach is as intimately familiar with each top dating app and is able to dissect them to figure out which ones are best for you (if any). 

-No other dating coach knows how to ask the tough questions to identify blind spots, work on opportunities to shine.

-No other dating coach will analyze posture, style, hobbies, interests, communication, lifestyle choices, hygiene, grooming habits, religion, politics, writing skills, facial expressions, first impressions, vocal intonation and personality like I do.

-I don’t use paid ads, nor rely on my looks and charm like other coaches who are great salespeople. 

While other coaches and online dating experts rely on studies, theoretical scenarios, rigid structures/formulas, their charm or appearance, I rely on real-world experiences, blending qualitative and quantitative data, unknown information, human choice, personalities, things that can’t be captured in data, demographics and of course you and your own unique experience and situation.

I am agnostic when it comes to offline methods, dating apps or sometimes matchmakers. I will break down the pros and cons of each for you. Having lived in San Francisco, Los Angeles and New York and having spent significant time traveling to places like Seattle, Portland, Chicago, Boston, London and beyond. 

As a person of color and someone who was a bit nerdy and introverted in my early 20s, I learned to be more outgoing, embraced apps and optimized my opportunities offline by learning how to improve my appearance, communication skills, confidence and social skills. Read more about me here.

Related reading: Online vs. Offline Dating  | Dating Apps vs. Matchmakers

My Approach, Philosophy: New York Dating Coach, Manhattan Dating Coach, Dating Coach NY

I believe in hard work, self-awareness, patience and building a foundation that will allow for sustainable success. If you are looking for a cheerleader to make you feel good, hacks, PUA material or someone to make empty promises, please stop reading and look elsewhere. Testimonials below.

  • I am not one of those dating coaches who are still single themselves (many of them are and have been for a while)
  • I am not here to make empty promises nor take you on as a client if I don’t think I can help you attract higher quality people.
  • My focus is not only helping clients but also improving the dating pool; as such, 70% of inquiries are turned down
  • You won’t find photoshopped glamour photos of me on this site or in the press (I believe in honesty, substance, and authenticity)
  • You will get to work with me directly and not an assistant nor an apprentice. 
  • This is a partnership, I expect you do some work but I will guide you so you know how to navigate dating more clearly and efficiently.

Next Steps: NYC Dating Coach For Women, Men;

Feeling lost? Overwhelmed? Not a problem. I will have you fill out a questionnaire to help me learn more about you, and recommend services or I will let you know if I am not in a position to help you.

I lived in NYC from 2011-2013 and try to visit every so often. A lot of my clients fly from NYC to work with me but I also offer remote services and priority booking for existing clients when I am traveling to NYC (see contact page for travel information).

About Eddie Hernandez

Eddie is a dating coach for men & women in San Francisco (clients in NYC, LA, Chicago, & beyond ), as seen in the NYT & Bumble). He helps w/ profiles, photos, wardrobe, messaging, date ideas, red flags, lifestyle choices, hobbies, grooming/hygiene, communication, social skills & offline efforts.