Pros & Cons of Dating During Covid-19, Coronavirus Hinge Memes, Tinder Jokes, How To Use Dating Apps + Video Chats During Quarantine, Shutdowns, Social Distancing, Self-Isolate & Chill
During these trying times, many people are turning to dating apps with increased social isolation and quarantine protocols in place. Dating apps experienced a bit of a lull in January and February but stated to experience an uptick in March once most major cities around the world implemented various levels of quarantine, reduced activities and companies started to encourage and force work from home policies.
With these changes in addition to bar closures, restaurants eliminating dine in customers, people have started to experience some cabin fever. Being stuck at home with family, roommates or alone can be challenging. For those that rely on dating apps to meet people for convenience or primary source of dates, these times will be especially tough.
If you read the news, you will notice a number of topics covering virtual dates, safety etc. because of the interest in dating apps but please note, most of the increase in downloads and usage is mostly on Tinder. Most people during the lockdown are looking for penpals, entertainment or are lonely. Most people are taking a break from apps like Hinge and Bumble because it’s hard to carry one a conversation given that the lockdowns will last through May (at least).
That said, the information below will help you understand trends, memes, jokes as well as provide guidance on whether it’s wise to use dating apps now and what to expect during social and physical distancing including safety tips and red flags to look out for.
Coronavirus Jokes and Memes
Most people are turning to memes to joke about the coronavirus and covid-19 but as time passes and the number of cases increases, it is becoming more evident that we are experiencing a serious pandemic and these quarantines are not a laughing matter. I personally think it is immature and in poor taste to joke about these current protocols for self-quarantine regardless of age.
If you use these jokes and memes that could lead to an uptick in left-swipes and reduced matches and replies. Yes, many people are using these as ways to connect with others and there are varying degrees of lightheartedness but my advice is to stay clear of these efforts.
Video Chats, Zoom Virtual Dates, Texting, FaceTime After Matching
As for matching and getting to know each other, people have resorted to Facetime, Zoom, Google Hangouts etc. to connect with others. The issue I have with this is once you move away from dating apps, you are exposing yourself to increased chances for possible scams and more, particularly video blackmail. It becomes infinitely harder to report bad behavior to dating apps and authorities once you move off dating apps and sites.
Given that it is quite possible quarantines and shutdowns will last beyond a few weeks, matches can fizzle out even with good conversation. Online dating is a misnomer. Dating occurs offline and in person. It’s harder and harder these days to meet outside even if you remain 6 feet apart and avoid crowds etc. On top of that, many people are concerned or frightened about exposure, job security, stock and 401k portfolios, rent, elderly loved ones etc. The news provides daily updates on the severity of the situation at hand with case counts and death counts.
Safety During Social Distancing
Even if you are able to meet in person, medical professionals are encouraging unnecessary gatherings even amongst small groups or pairs (particularly strangers). For one, it’s easier to control and track spread of the virus if you limit your contacts. Two, you don’t know the stranger you met from dating apps. Anonymity is a major reason why people use dating apps to begin with.
It’s better to use this time to volunteer, help someone who is over 65 and is unable to leave the house at all or use your time to help others in need like service industry folks and others who don’t have a safety net of working from home, PTO, sick days etc.
Online dating can wait and it’s arguably better as many other people will have conversations that fizzle out anyways once the bans are lifted. Yes, video chats are an easier excuse to screen people but it’s tough to keep chemistry and flirtation going back and forth without an end in site depending on where you live in the world.
Quarantine and Chill
Many guys will use this time to invite girls over to Quarantine and Chill (adaption of Netflix and Chill). Not only is this cliche and creepy it can also be dangerous especially for a first date (see my post on online dating red flags). Any person who is insisting on making you meet in person or pressuring you to believe they are healthy or it is ok just to hang out is obviously trying to lower your guard.
Many people are relocating to places with fewer outbreaks and as such it is harder to tell if they are in town temporarily or permanently (some dating apps auto-update locations while others have fixed locations). This ambiguity can add stress early on.
Cliche Coronavirus, Covid-19 Pickup Lines
Some rather lame attempts at being funny. These overused pickup lines are not only cliche but are used by many others who copy and paste lines.
With all that said, taking things slow and putting in time (from a safe distance) to get to know someone could reap huge benefits. Many people rush swipes, conversations and dates and video chats can help weed out people who are not looking for the same thing you are. Don’t overly invest in someone who you have not met as in person chemistry may not live up to the hype and people can make the mistake in putting too much pressure on first in person dates after a number of texts and video chats.
Take things slow, take care of yourself and others and use this time wisely.
About Eddie Hernandez
Eddie Hernandez is a professional photographer specializing in natural, candid online dating photos. Featured in the SFGate, ABC7News, East Bay Express, Salon; contributor to Good Men Project, Plenty Of Fish and Meddle. In addition to photos, he provides guidance around app choice, bio optimization, messaging techniques, wardrobe advice and date ideas. https://eddie-hernandez.com/contact/
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