Pros and Cons Of Hiring A Photographer For Your Dating Photos: Tips From an Online Dating Coach, Consultant
There are photographers for everything these days: weddings, engagements, newborns, events, headshots, editorial, food, nature, fine art etc. but on of the newest specialties is online dating photographers. Hiring a photographer to help fill out your dating profile is nothing new – most people have friends, family, strangers at events, event photographers take photos of them but for those that are recently single, have few recent photos, have photos with their ex and kids mostly, it’s important to have photos of yourself for dating apps.
As people get older, there are fewer and fewer opportunities to take photos in everyday situations. Family, kids, work, commutes all factor into people having less time than ever before. People change appearance (facial hair, hair loss, hair color, weight change, wardrobe updates) – all these changes require folks to update their profiles so that a date can see what the person looks like if he/she were to meet them on a first date.
Online dating is one of the most talked about topics in today’s world. More and more people are using dating apps (and those numbers are often underreported) and as a result, there is a growing trend of photographers looking to take advantage of this growing industry. Unfortunately there are a lot of bad online dating photographers out there – most are wedding, modeling or portrait photographers overextending their branding to include online dating which has caused some bad experiences for many customers out there.
Most “online dating photographers” will take portrait photos, stiff, staged photos, overly photoshopped images and headshot like photos – these are the worst type of photos to use on your dating profile. Many clients I have worked with have made the mistake of working with an online dating photographer only to realize that their photos look nothing like themselves and are unable to secure second dates because their dates were misled with photos. Don’t let this happen to you.
There are only a handful of good to great photographers who know how to take natural, candid photos for dating profiles. Of those, very few have the years of experience of knowing which photos are better for Tinder vs. Hinge/Bumble, which apps are best for your location, age and what you seek and know if dating apps are worth it for you given your unique situation. I have seen plenty of online dating photographers, coaches etc. who have been on single on dating sites for years.
Photos are the most important thing and often the first thing people notice on your profile but it is not the only thing they notice. Your app choice, bio, messages, date ideas, photo captions and swiping strategy are critical aspects of an online dating strategy that should not go ignored. Self-sabotage is one of the biggest reasons for poor performance on dating apps.
If you do decide to hire a photographer for your dating photos, test them on their knowledge of dating apps. Understand that you need photos in multiple locations and outfits. The most obvious and cringe worthy dating profiles are ones that are obvious that a professional portrait photographer took your photo – same location and outfits, excessive skin softening, generic walls and locations in close proximity as well as perfectly cropped and center focused images.
Hire someone who is a people person. The biggest indicator for successful photos is technical aptitude, location scouting, wardrobe styling and chemistry with the subject. Be careful hiring a photographer from a marketplace as most of those folks have little to no experience with dating photos or don’t do this full-time. A good online dating photographer should review your existing photos to see which ones are good enough to use on a profile, see where you can improve and offer guidance on how to complement your existing photos.
For tips on how to get started and what to expect, read this intro guide to online dating: https://eddie-hernandez.com/online-dating-frequently-asked-questions/